Wednesday, November 18, 2009

My 3 C's for Happiness

My 3 C’s for Happiness

Bobby McFerrin wrote a song called “Don’t Worry, Be Happy” back in 1988. This is how in goes :

Here’s a little song I wrote

You might want to sing it note for note

Don’t Worry, Be Happy

In every life we have some trouble

But when you worry you make it double

Don’t Worry, Be Happy

It gives me great pleasure to share with you my 3 C’s of Happiness.

1. Contentment

The 1st C for happiness is Contentment. The simple secret of being happy is :

not to have everything you want, but

to want everything that you have.

For example, how is it possible that a normal car I bought is more exciting to me that most cars that cost a lot more? The answer is that nothing has the power by itself to make us happy. The things that bring us joy do so only by virtue of the fact that we find them joyful. Happiness come from within, learn to cultivate inner beauty. It is our believe and we decide happiness ourselves. Happiness need not be pursued. It merely has to be embraced.

2. Charity

My second C for happiness is Charity. In Jun 2006, the 2nd richest man in the world, Warren Buffett, announced he will give away the bulk of his US$44 billion fortune to a foundation set up by the richest man in the world. I am sure they find happiness in deciding to focus on philanthropy.

I have a piggy bank for charity. Each morning before I leave home for work, I will drop a coin into the piggy bank. If one can start the day by giving, he or her unusually find the whole day will be smooth sailing. At the end of the month, I will count how much is in the piggy bank, the money will go to a charity organization.

By doing charity work, it enable us to lead a more fulfilling and inspiring life. Next month, I will be in Myanmar for missionary work. According to a research, the happiest person is the person most willing to help others. Not just helping those you know, it include those you do not know.

3. Clarity

My 3rd C for happiness is Clarity (in our communications).

“Eloquence is the power to translate a truth into language perfectly intelligible to the person to whom you speak.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

An American started Toastmasters International in 1924 and the movement has spread across the world. Worldwide there are about 9,000 Toastmasters Clubs and about 190,000 members. Today, more and more people also seek personal growth and development.

Clarity in our communications can bring forth a lot of happiness and prevent a lot of unhappiness. I still remember Chee Yen tell the story of a driving instructor who said : use the 2nd Law. But what he is trying to say is use the 2nd door, not 2nd Law.

Communications is from the Sender or speaker to the Receiver or listener. Both has been shaped in his or her thinking, feelings and behaviour by his or her upbringing, personality, religion, physical environment and culture. It goes through a number of functions, like words (7%), body language (55%), ie gestures, facial expression, eye-contact, tone of voice (38%), and many other signals and activities. All these are covered in Toastmasters. In Toastmasters, we can also learn the right pronunciation and enunciation. It can sparked a war between two countries just by one person through communication. If done correctly, it can bring happiness. So, be a Toastmasters.

Finally, happiness is said to be a by-product. No one is in charge of your happiness except you. I am a happy and optimistic person by nature. Try and follow the 3 C’s for Happiness, everyday can be a happy day.

Success is getting what you want,

Happiness is wanting what you get.

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